Kokomo Tribune; Kokomo, Indiana

Breaking News

Columns

November 3, 2012

Day: Prepare now for those later years

Kokomo — As we grow, from birth to the early years to the teenage years to adulthood, we go through some drastic changes. We are in the hands of our parents for most of that time, then later decide to embark on a new life without the security of our parents and only a few dollars in our pockets.

From that time when we first enter the world still fastened to our mother, we depend on her to give us what we need. That is a bond that no other can offer.

As time goes by, we start finding out we have a father who is responsible for bringing in the money to buy food and clothes and pay the bills. Then as we grow a little older, we find that our mother not only has us to bring up, but also a few more kids who reap in the same benefits we do. That is what is called a family, and that is good.

The first few years, mom and dad try to teach us how to walk, speak and listen to what they are trying to tell us. We then start school, where teachers take on the task of working on what has been taught by the parents. They show us how to read, write and study the things needed to get us ready for the outside world – when it is time to leave the nest, venture out into the world to make our mark, take a mate and bring up our own family.

And so the cycle moves, time and time again, and that is good.

Soon the parents are turned into grandparents, and they wonder where the time went. Life is like that. It can be a great and joyful one, or it can be a heartache that carries a scar for a very long time.

We find out that times have changed and, instead of it being like it was, the parents soon are moving in with the kids when they can’t take care of themselves. It is a left turn. The kids move back into the parents’ home, and soon there is a house-full. The privacy the parents had is no more.

Where does that leave the parents, who love their kids so much but now have to go through a change in life that should not have to be? Do they just sit back and wait for that time when God calls them home? Don’t they deserve to reap the joy of togetherness with their mate in those golden years, alone, still in daily touch with their children who should be walking their own paths?

Folks, this is for real. Life is that way unless you have made different arrangements for that time in those golden years that have turned a little gray.

Lord knows it is a little expensive to have to go to a nursing home, so you need to look forward some and try to set back some assets so that you won’t be homeless or a hindrance to your kids.

And that should open up the eyes and minds of the younger members of the family. Tell them they should be there for their loved ones, taking care of their needs instead of waiting until they lose them and then fighting over the assets that are left.

Show your love now. Don’t wait till later and find out that it was too late.

If you don’t have a will or a living will, do yourself a favor and get one. They can always be changed later if needed, but just having one now is a good thing to do. We have ours, and our kids won’t have to make a grave decision.

Ray “Uncle Ray” Day is a weekly contributor to the Kokomo Tribune. Contact him at uncleray@earthlink.net.

1
Text Only | Photo Reprints
Columns
  • Hicks: Measuring the unmeasurable

    One aspect of economic research I think is especially powerful is the ability to measure or monetize the things that humans clearly value but for which a market price is not necessarily apparent. This is one of the aspects of economic analysis that gives it such dominance over other social sciences.

    April 17, 2014

  • Rob Burgess House of Burgess: Bush presents 'The Art of Leadership'

    On April 5, “The Art of Leadership: A President’s Personal Diplomacy,” opened at the George W. Bush Presidential Library and Museum on the campus of Southern Methodist University. The display, which runs through June 3, boasts “portraits of more than two dozen world leaders” painted by Bush, according to the official literature.

    April 16, 2014 1 Photo

  • Bohanon: ‘Economics is fun’ in Vegas or in Bible study

    I am writing this on an airplane to Las Vegas. I’ll be attending the annual conference of the Association of Private Enterprise Education along with two of my colleagues and six of my students.

    April 16, 2014

  • Hayden: Want better teacher ratings? Ask the kids

    The state may be back where it started, encumbered with a flawed teacher grading system, a year after implementing what were meant to be tough new standards.
    That was the general consensus of the State Board of Education days after teacher evaluation data were released last week.

    April 15, 2014

  • BRIAN HOWEY: Mike Pence for president in 2016? Stay tuned Mike Pence for president? The swirl of 2016 national ticket talk surrounding Gov. Pence intensified over the past few weeks. I sat down with the governor in his office on Tuesday to find out what he's really thinking. A few hours prior, the Weekly S

    April 14, 2014

  • DICK WOLFSIE: Such a thing as too much My wife and I went on a binge last week. If you think I'm talking about an eating binge, you've never seen how thin we both are. If you think I mean a shopping binge, you don't know how cheap we are. And if you think it was a cleaning binge, you've n

    April 14, 2014

  • ED VASICEK: Chewing over news in bite-size vignettes Today, I am going to share a few "opinionettes" about current news items. Ready? Let's go! City prosperity The unemployment rate in the United States is down to 6.7 percent. This is its lowest level since October 2008. When I remember government effo

    April 13, 2014

  • MICHAEL HICKS: Finding measure of value One aspect of economic research I think is especially powerful is the ability to measure or monetize the things humans clearly value but for which a market price is not necessarily apparent. This is one of the aspects of economic analysis that gives

    April 13, 2014

  • PUBLIC EYE: Right across the county line

    Grant County has wind problems, and as an editor recently and quite rightly noted, “Wind doesn’t care about county lines.”

    So Grant County’s issues over a proposed E.ON Climate & Renewables wind farm are becoming Howard County’s issues as well.

    April 13, 2014

  • RAY DAY: My wife and life, Ramona Today, I will tell you a story about my soul mate and wife, who has been with me for more than 57 years now. Time has gone by so quickly, it only seems like yesterday when we met. Her name is Ramona; I call her Moni for short. Her friends call her Ra

    April 12, 2014

Latest news
Featured Ads
Only on our website
AP Video
Disbanding Muslim Surveillance Draws Praise Hundreds Missing After South Korean Ferry Sinks Passengers Abuzz After Plane Hits Swarm of Bees Boston Bomb Scare Defendant Appears in Court Pistorius Trial: Adjourned Until May 5 Diaz Gets Physical for New Comedy Raw: Ferry Sinks Off South Korean Coast Town, Victims Remember Texas Blast Freeze Leaves Florida Panhandle With Dead Trees At Boston Marathon, a Chance to Finally Finish Are School Dress Codes Too Strict? Raw: Fatal Ferry Boat Accident Suspicious Bags Found Near Marathon Finish Line Boston Marks the 1st Anniversary of Bombing NYPD Ends Muslim Surveillance Program 8-year-old Boy Gets His Wish: Fly Like Iron Man Sex Offenders Arrested in Slayings of CA Women India's Transgenders Celebrate Historic Ruling Tributes Mark Boston Bombing Anniversary Raw: Kan. Shooting Suspect Faces Judge
Parade
Magazine

Click HERE to read all your Parade favorites including Hollywood Wire, Celebrity interviews and photo galleries, Food recipes and cooking tips, Games and lots more.
Obituaries
Poll
Kelly Lafferty's video on Tom Miller