Kokomo Tribune; Kokomo, Indiana


February 9, 2013

DAY: Another hug, kiss for Mom

— As I relive those wonderful days of old, I get a little wet in the eyes. My heart pounds as things that, at the time, did not mean that much to us, now are memories so precious to me and my brothers and sisters.

Mom standing at the cook stove for such a long time, you would think she would want to sit down and rest. But rest was not her way of life when her man and her children were looking forward to some of the best eating there is.

Mom was a great cook, and she was a greater mother. I remember that in the mornings before school, she would have a big platter of bacon and eggs ready for us. We all started the day off right, with a warm, fed belly and, at the door, a nice wonderful hug and kiss.

You couldn’t start any day off better than that.

Dad would still be at the table, taking his time tasting every little bite he took. Dad was never really the type to hug and kiss us, but we knew he loved us anyway. About the only time we would see him would be at the breakfast table, right after he got home from work, or just before he would leave for his midnight turn at the mill.

He was a hard worker. He knew that his family relied on him to bring home a paycheck every two weeks.

While we were in school and he was at work, you would think that Mom would get a little rest. But she always had something to do. If she did have time, she liked to play songs on her piano.

Mom made quilts, and she was good at it, and usually each member of the family would get a quilt when they got married. She was good at darning socks, and she always laughed when I would say that I had the best darned socks ever.

Mom was a cook who stayed with the same type of foods. And tasting the biscuits smothered with butter really hit the spot with a good, hot cup of coffee.

To set it straight, we boys in the family were started on coffee early in life, and we have never changed. Cornbread and beans with fried taters and onions made a meal for a king, and sometimes she would surprise us with a big pan of mush made from scratch. She would slice it and fry it in a little lard or bacon grease and, boy, that sure hit the spot. Always, there were some beans left over, and Mom would make bean cakes by adding flour and seasoning with chopped onions, and she would fry them like she did the mush.

Boy, this old man is getting hungry just writing about the things that our mother cooked. She would make homemade pancakes, and the syrup she used was made of sugar and water heated up until it had some thickness to it.

Eating meals at the Day household was a happening that was made by the best cook ever. And Mom just kept doing and doing, finding something to do until her family got home. And when you got home, there she was, standing at the door with a smile on her face that would light up the whole neighborhood.

I could go on and on writing about my mother, but the hardest thing we ever had to do was give her back to God. She had done her time to the fullest down here on Earth, and God said, “Come, my child, it is time to come home.”

For those of you out there who still have your mothers with you, I ask you to go to them and give them a good hug and kiss. Even though you think you did that a lot, there is always one more that you can give her. Mothers are a gift to us, and we should show that we appreciated it.

Ray “Uncle Ray” Day is a weekly contributor to the Kokomo Tribune. Contact him at uncleray@earthlink.net.

Text Only | Photo Reprints
  • DAVE BANGERT: Indiana's new chief justice and court's 'mom question' Two years ago, as Loretta Rush ascended from Tippecanoe Superior Court 3 judge to the state’s Supreme Court, I dropped this line in a column celebrating someone who had earned her place.“Across the state, the headline will be: ‘[Mitch] Daniels Choose

    August 14, 2014

  • JEFFREY McCALL: POTUS promises of transparency fail to materialize The United States system of government relies on citizens having full access to information that can be used in self-governance. Journalists and other First Amendment advocates were enthused when the Obama administration came into office with convinc

    August 14, 2014

  • Rob Burgess House of Burgess: RIP Robin Williams

    I was re-watching the 2006 movie “Little Miss Sunshine” Monday when I heard my phone buzz. After the credits had rolled, I looked at the screen and found myself shocked.It was a news alert that Robin Williams had died that morning at the age of 63 of an apparent suicide.

    August 13, 2014 1 Photo

  • ANDREA NEAL: 'Paddle Your Own Canoe' is a Hoosier inspiration

    Editor’s note: This is one in a series of essays leading up to the celebration of the Indiana Bicentennial in December 2016. James Whitcomb Riley was the most acclaimed, but he wasn’t the first Hoosier poet to gain national fame. Sarah T. Bolton dese

    August 13, 2014

  • DAVE BANGERT: Rokita, illegal immigration, Ebola outbreak and context At first listen last Monday, there was something so unsavory about our congressman, Todd Rokita, whipping up two full-fledged crises — Central American children at the U.S. southern border and the African scourge of Ebola — into one pungent sound bit

    August 12, 2014

  • DAN COATS: Let's give nonprofits relief from IRS delays A flurry of scandal has recently surrounded the Internal Revenue Service.Over the past few months, we have learned about missing emails from IRS employees and revelations of clear bias and hostility by a top IRS official towards organizations with ce

    August 12, 2014

  • BRIAN HOWEY: Pitchforks and pikes in our summer of discontent Congress is ... embarrassing. Our political system is failing us. On an individual basis, many of us have respect for members of our delegation. We can have a common sense conversation with a senator, congressman or congresswoman, and then they go ba

    August 11, 2014

  • DICK WOLFSIE: Enough reminders to forget It began with a simple phone call to my friend, Auri, a computer geek I asked to help me with my very successful website, which right now is attracting up to three visitors a month. To have a strong online presence, you have to spend several hours a

    August 11, 2014

  • ED VASICEK: Outsourced jobs, health crises in foreign lands The other week, my Internet was giving me trouble. I called the support number, and — to my surprise — I spoke to a representative who sounded as American as apple pie. It turned out the technical problem was an oversight on my end and fixed quickly.

    August 10, 2014

  • MICHAEL HICKS: Dodging corporate taxes Corporations are among our oldest institutions. Something like a joint stock company probably triggered the earliest formal written communication — the accounting ledger. It should be unsurprising that the early traders of Mesopotamia used a corporat

    August 10, 2014

Latest news
Featured Ads
Only on our website
AP Video
US: We Do Not Pay Ransom to Terrorists Ferguson Teachers Training to Deal With Trauma Jon Hamm on the Unrest in Ferguson Tit for Tat? McDonald's Shuttered in Moscow Life on the Professional Video Game Circuit TX Gov Perry in Washington: 'Confident' in Case Hospital Releases Two Missionaries Who Had Ebola Ramen Health Risks: The Dark Side of the Noodle NYC Doctor-in-chief Seeks Community Approach Indonesian Police Fire Tear Gas at Protesters Raw: Shots Fired in Liberian Shantytown DOJ, Bank of America Reach Record Settlement Raw: Cubavision Airs Images of Fidel Castro Raw: Grief After Deadly Airstrikes in Gaza Officer Who Pointed Gun at Protesters Suspended Kathy Griffin Challenges Minaj to 'a Booty Off' Johnson: Six Arrests, No Tear Gas in Ferguson Raw: Rescue, Relief Efforts at Japan Landslide Cadavers, a Teen, and a Medical School Dream California Drought Stings Honeybees, Beekeepers

Click HERE to read all your Parade favorites including Hollywood Wire, Celebrity interviews and photo galleries, Food recipes and cooking tips, Games and lots more.
Kelly Lafferty's video on Tom Miller