Kokomo Tribune; Kokomo, Indiana

Columns

December 8, 2012

Day: Our lives are good but tough

There are many things each of us does not know. Most are content just living day by day, and all things outside of that life are not needed to better themselves.

But as I grow older, I find myself wanting to learn more. I start a new book or just ask questions of those who know. Many times, I start up my old computer and just start asking questions and get a lot of answers from it.

The ones on the other end often do not know anymore than I do, and they refer me to different websites where I can find the answers.

But I am not content to take that answer as gospel. It could just be another’s opinion and not the facts. A lot can be learned about many things, but don’t rely on one person’s answer.

My morning starts the same each day. I get my coffee and my Kokomo Tribune, and I spend about an hour reading just about all of it before stopping long enough to get my daily chores started.

Putting the information from the newspaper to use is what I try to do by making notes to check later, either on the television or by checking with others before that is placed up into my memory bank for later use.

I learned a long time ago that many things you hear are just gossip and not the whole truth. Even good friends can give you the wrong information.

They put their own wording to it. They don’t do it intentionally, but they believe it must be said before they forget what it was all about.

Using the mind for remembering gets a little heavy once in a while, and some of those things you thought you knew just aren’t there anymore. The brain gets a little tired and feels like it has all it can handle without adding to it.

But the brain is a wonderful asset to everything we do or say, and many get the illness that dulls the brain to the point that we don’t even know our own family. Once a good friend had to put his father into a nursing home because he was getting old and fell a lot. Wanting to keep his dad from getting hurt, he did what he hated to do but it was for the health of his father.

He went in one day to see his father. The older man looked at my friend and said, “Do I know you? Who are you?”

The son said that broke his heart. His father had played a part in my friend taking up the ministry, as the father was a minister too.

Another old friend told me one day he visited his wife every day at a nursing home, and he had to constantly tell her to breathe. He said that it hurt him very much to have to holler at her because they had been married for more than 50 years.

We never know when that will happen to us or to one of our loved ones or friends. I guess we take life for granted. We expect to be able to live without problems, but it just does not work that way.

Life is what you make of it, but sometimes the making is a taking.

Maybe one day, they will find out what causes that brain degeneration. Maybe those affected will live a full life and remember all the things they did and all those wonderful members of their families.

I guess I should be tickled pink to be able to remember the things I do. But I think what helps me is that I read as much as I can, watch news shows, and that I am always ready to listen to others who lived before me and still knew what things were like in their day.

That is why I write this column. It keeps me alert and happy.

Ray “Uncle Ray” Day is a weekly contributor to the Kokomo Tribune. Contact him at uncleray@earthlink.net.

1
Text Only | Photo Reprints
Columns
  • SEN. JIM BUCK: New laws offer help for kids Families with children who have special needs often face difficulties finding the best care or treatment for their specific circumstance. During the 2014 legislative session, the Indiana General Assembly passed several initiatives to assist these fam

    July 24, 2014

  • BILL STANCZYKIEWICZ: Youth sports leagues are on troubling decline An important youth development activity is looking to end a recent losing streak. Participation in organized youth sports leagues for baseball, football, basketball and soccer declined by 4 percent between 2008-2012, according to a report in the Wall

    July 24, 2014

  • MAUREEN HAYDEN: Expiring term heightens urgency of legislator's mission State Rep. Rebecca Kubacki had plans for her return to the General Assembly next January.The two-term Republican from Kosciusko County wanted to exert “full force” to roll back a law that prevents the children of undocumented immigrants from paying i

    July 23, 2014

  • CECIL BOHANON: Spend down surplus? Been there, done that Back in 1998, the state of Indiana had more than $1.3 billion in surplus funds in its general account. This was about 57 days of state spending. The state had total surplus funds of more than $2 billion that was over 24 percent of its annual operatin

    July 23, 2014

  • MAUREEN HAYDEN: Expiring term heightens urgency of legislator's mission State Rep. Rebecca Kubacki had plans for her return to the General Assembly next January.The two-term Republican from Kosciusko County wanted to exert “full force” to roll back a law that prevents the children of undocumented immigrants from paying i

    July 22, 2014

  • TOM LoBIANCO: Indiana Democrats deal with divide on education On the face of it, the battles between Democratic Schools Superintendent Glenda Ritz and supporters and staff of Republican Gov. Mike Pence have been a unifying force for Indiana Democrats. But the scrapping has exposed a deep rift within the party o

    July 22, 2014

  • BRIAN HOWEY: Is Evan Bayh contemplating another gubernatorial run? This could be the saga of “LeBron Bayh.”Like a thunderhead brewing in the distance, you could see this one coming. This was the progression: former state Democratic Chairman Dan Parker announces he will not become a candidate for mayor of Indianapoli

    July 21, 2014

  • DICK WOLFSIE: Please go away already My wife is planning our summer vacation, which we will take in the fall. We took our spring vacation this summer. We got behind in 1984 and still haven't caught up. I don't have much input into the planning of these trips, but Mary Ellen did assign m

    July 21, 2014

  • ED VASICEK: Internet, and future of communication One morning, I was chatting with some retired folks and the subject of paying bills on the Internet came up. One woman said she disposed of her computer years ago and pays her bills by mail. I commented she could get by just fine doing that. The othe

    July 20, 2014

  • FAITH BRAUTIGAM: Learning from others' mistakes through literature If you’ve ever been locked out of somewhere — your home, your car, your workplace — I expect you could tell me all the details of the incident, even if it was years or decades ago. Why? Our brains remember major events, and it’s a big deal to be stra

    July 20, 2014

Latest news
Featured Ads
Only on our website
AP Video
Raw: Gunmen Attack Iraqi Prison Convoy Plane Leaves Ukraine With More Crash Victims The Rock Brings Star Power to Premiere Raw: Families Travel to Taiwan Plane Crash Site Arizona Execution Takes Almost Two Hours Gen. Odierno Discusses Ukraine, NATO at Forum Gaza Fighting Rages Amid Cease-Fire Efforts Mint Gives JFK Coin a Face-lift Creative Makeovers for Ugly Cellphone Towers Ariz. Inmate Dies 2 Hours After Execution Began Crash Kills Teen Pilot Seeking World Record LeBron James Sends Apology Treat to Neighbors Raw: Funeral for Man Who Died in NYPD Custody Migrants Back in Honduras After US Deports Israeli American Reservist Torn Over Return
Parade
Magazine

Click HERE to read all your Parade favorites including Hollywood Wire, Celebrity interviews and photo galleries, Food recipes and cooking tips, Games and lots more.
Obituaries
Poll
Kelly Lafferty's video on Tom Miller