Kokomo Tribune; Kokomo, Indiana

June 7, 2014

Teaching boys to become men, not just males

By Michael Carson
Local columnist

---- — Father’s Day is almost here and while in this column I could share about being a father and grandfather, permit me instead to share some thoughts about being a man.

Being a man goes far beyond being a male, which is simply a biological fact. Being a man is how a male, that is at least eighteen years of age, strives to live his life. This is a relational and emotional fact!

Paul shares with the Church at Corinth: “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (1 Corinthians 13:11)

I am always studying males and men, not only because God has blessed me with a “ministry of mentoring.” But it’s just good to always desire to learn more in life about who you are.

Becoming a man is a process of learning how to not only be male but how to embrace the responsibilities of being a man.

Yes while men are at first males it is important for males to learn how to become men. Every male should want the “gospel of Salt & Pepa” to one day be said of them: “What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man!”

It is important for there to be men present that will help provide strong male role models for our youth. Those who will help to lead, direct and guide our young persons from the perspective of a man.

It has been stated: “A man cannot be a true man unless he makes more money than the significant female or wife in his life.”

This is not true. Another lie is that “unless a man makes a certain amount of money, he cannot be an adequate father.”

This is not the case at all!

A man always gains great satisfaction from doing the best he can by working and helping to provide for his family. A man knows that his physical presence in the family, however this is accomplished, is so very essential. Yes while “money cures all things” (Ecclesiastes 10:19) brothers we must always strive to be able to answer “Present and Participating!” when God asks us “where are you?” (Genesis 3:9)

A man places all his faith in God, trusting that God will always lead him.

A man will embrace other men, women, boys and girls and embrace them in a wholesome, encouraging, supportive and nurturing manner. He can and will be able to say, “I love you!”

“But Brother Mike, I don’t really know how to be a man because I had no man to show me, to teach me, to love me.”

Here is what I say to you: Seek God.

“Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become the sons of God.” (St. John 1:12)

Also seek mentors who understand the charge Paul gave to Timothy: “And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men, who shall be able to teach others also.” (2 Timothy 2:2)

Then you do the same for other males desiring to learn how to become men!

Peace with justice, be blessed real good, attend worship this week, and families matter.