The Metcalfs continue to spend all their time together, 61 years after they were married.
“We very seldom do anything apart from each other anymore,” Phyllis said. “We need to watch each other and make sure we’re alright.”
“It’s good because she watches me like a hawk,” John said.
John keeps his eye on Phyllis too.
“She gets a phone call and I don’t know where she’s at, so I have to run her down,” he said.
They’ve had to watch one another even more during the past year.
“This has been a very low year for us,” Phyllis said. “It’s been a struggle. It’s giving up a lot when you get older.”
They lost a daughter in February to breast cancer, and one month ago John’s heart stopped. The defibrillator he had built into his body in the 1980s after his first heart attack kicked in and brought him back.
“It was scary,” Phyllis said. “For eight whole seconds, he was gone.”
They had just woken up for the day and John complained about not feeling very well. He laid down on the floor between the bed and the dresser and was gone.
“I didn’t know how I got on the floor,” John said.
“I was the one who saw it all,” Phyllis said. “I saw his whole body jerk.”
Phyllis called 911, but when they got there, John was awake and okay.
“The good Lord said, ‘No John, not your turn yet. Get back up and get into bed,’” Phyllis said.
“We never know from day to day what’s going to happen,” John said.
John and Phyllis say the past 61 years has gone by very quickly. Instead of jetting off to Hawaii and Vegas, the Metcalfs have a tradition of watching Westerns, Funniest Home Videos, and Matlock almost every night before going to bed at 10 p.m.