Some might blame the media for bombarding us with airbrushed images of “perfect” women, and yeah, that’s part of it.
But we need to take responsibility for what we do to make the problem worse.
The other day I stumbled across a photo of Beyonce taken during this year’s Grammys. Yeah, I know I’m a little late to the party here, but bear with me. The message is still relevant.
The photo was circulating Facebook. Queen Bey looked stunningly beautiful in a white, lace gown. I clicked on the image to get a better look and was surprised at what I found.
People had left thousands of comments on the photo, many of them ripping Beyonce apart.
One said, “Her hair is a mess because it all broke from all the coloring and weaves she does. Her performance at the awards was awful she really looked like a real pig... Come on stop letting this little cow think she is a goddess because she isn’t.. She had so much theatrical makeup on that it wasn’t funny. This girl is a real mess without any makeup.”
That comment came from a grown woman.
And I know, everyone is entitled to their opinion, but that’s more than an opinion. That’s called bullying.
How many young girls do you think saw that photo and the mean comments that accompanied it?
How many immediately felt bad about themselves? I almost felt bad about myself reading it. I mean, if women are saying this about Beyonce, what are they saying about me?
It’s not OK for us to be treating other women this way when so many young girls are following our example.
So the next time you find yourself judging another woman like people judged Beyonce, make it right by telling a young girl or young woman how much you value her.