Kindness can disarm the toughest bully
Rarely does a bully go after someone who can fight back!
A synonym for a bully is “coward.” It helps if the victim realizes this.
Victims of bullying are now being taught not to resist. It makes the bully look like a terrorist, picking on a little kid.
Everyone will take action against the bully. He becomes a thug in the eyes of everyone else, and he or she is an insecure person anyway, and that is not the effect he or she is seeking.
When I was in the fourth grade, a bully came after me. I was riding my bicycle home from school, and he and some of his buddies grabbed me to go toe-to-toe with this guy in a field beside the road.
I noticed a hole behind him. I stepped behind him, causing him to fall on his back. I jumped on top of him.
After securing his promise to leave me alone, I rode home in peace. One day following, we rode our bikes together.
I lost track of him, but I understood he became involved in criminal activities. For a short time, he had a good friend who was not a criminal. I repaid his violence with kindness.
I did not turn the other cheek, but once the conflict was eliminated, I treated him in a way no one else had treated him. I hope he remembers me.
The trick with the bully is to be tricky. Be nice when he does not expect it. Agree with him when he thinks you will argue. Then the show is over, and he looks like the coward he truly is.
And then give him a Christmas present genuinely and from the heart. Then healing can occur. I did it, and it worked great.