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December 19, 2012

Letters to the editor - Thursday, Dec. 20, 2012

It’s about more than marriage

With the idea of same-sex marriage upon us, I give us something to think about. That little ole’ saying “Be careful of what you ask for, you just might get it,” comes to mind. I believe people are so caught up in the moment that they don’t look down the road.

So for argument sake, let’s say, gay marriage is allowed in the future. Yes, there are benefits to being married. Living with the one you love, raising a family and also the benefit of insurance/taxes with a spouse. One question I raise to all. What do you get when you get married? I hate to give the answer but it is divorced. Yes, even gays will get divorced.

So, what’s wrong with that, you ask. Hold tight, I’m getting there. Married gays sooner or later would want children. If they are a couple, then they would want to adopt children. When a gay couple gets divorced, a judge would have to decide who would be the custodial parent. I do not know the exact percent but over 95 percent of the time, the woman is the custodial parent in a straight marriage divorce. In a gay marriage, who would get the child? I would assume, a judge would look at all things possible, use a formula or criteria that would be set by the state that would be regulated.

When they did however decide that a child was best suited to live with one of the same-sex parent over the other, all hell is going to break loose. You see, at that moment they will have made a precedent that gay divorce/custody cases use different criteria than straight divorce/custody cases. They will in the future have to use the same criteria for all custody cases. The age of the woman “always” gets the kid will be long past. For there will be a formula or criteria used just like in a gay divorce.  

The first time a case goes to court and they give the child to the woman and don’t use the same ways used in a gay case, are you not being prejudice to the straight guy? If this new formula or criteria is to be used in new cases, what’s to stop it to be used in old ones? If it’s legal and “moral,” we shouldn’t grandfather old cases. For many years I heard people say “don’t waste your money,” “or “you will never win” and my favorite “the woman always gets the kid.” Well step up guys, the gays are about to make it a level playing field.

Get your children!

Jim Rader,


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