Kokomo Tribune; Kokomo, Indiana

November 18, 2013

Local woman searching for adopted sister

Amber Trine looking for adopted sister.

By Ken de la Bastide Kokomo Tribune
Kokomo Tribune

---- — Most high school sophomores don’t anticipate life-changing events will take place, but for Amber Trine, that was the year she discovered she had a sister she never knew.

Amber was 17 when an aunt told her her sister was adopted in 1985 by a couple through a Logansport attorney.

For the past 12 years, Trine has been searching for her sister, Sarah, who was born May 5, 1985.

Her aunt, Misty Flynn, started a Facebook page, “Searching for Sarah,” a few months ago.

“There were a couple of people who responded, but it was the wrong birth date,” Flynn said. “I had one good lead, but the person didn’t answer back.”

Flynn said they’re confident Sarah will be found.

“I think it would help Amber in many ways,” Flynn said. “A part of her is missing. Since she was 17, she has been looking for Sarah. It’s a big part of her life.

“We’re not going to give up,” she said.

Trine was born in 1984 to Lynn Constable, who was 15 at the time and living in Peru. Trine was raised by her grandparents, David and Judy Constable. She said her grandfather wanted her mother to get an education and raised Trine as one of their own. Trine grew up with her mother and seven of her grandparents’ other children.

A year later, Constable gave birth to another baby girl in Logansport. That baby was immediately adopted by a couple who met at Purdue University.

“I was surprised,” Trine said of learning she had a sister. “At first, you don’t want to believe it. I asked my grandparents some questions, and they answered me honestly.

“It was the truth,” she said. “It was a hard time in my life and for my mom.”

Trine said she has never asked her mother about her sister.

“It’s a chapter my mother closed and doesn’t want to reopen,” she said. “I think my mother could help if she wanted to.”

The only clue as to where Sarah might be is a letter from a Logansport law firm from 1988.

In the letter, the couple who adopted Sarah sought to adopt Trine. The letter states Sarah’s father received a Ph.D. in engineering, and her mother has a master’s degree and works as a pediatric speech-language pathologist.

“We are fortunate to have a nice home with a big yard in a family-orientated middle class suburban neighborhood with lots of children and excellent schools,” the letter continues.

Trine contacted the law office in Logansport, but it didn’t keep the records.

“I always wanted to find Sarah deep down, but I was young when I first found out,” she said. “Now that I’m older, I’m more curious about where she is and what she’s like.”

Trine said she wants to meet and talk with Sarah.

“I just want to get to know her,” she said. “I wonder who she is. I’m sure she would have questions as well; I may not be able to answer those questions.”

Trine said her grandmother provided some information, including Sarah’s name.

“No one in my family ever got to see her after she was born,” she said. “She was adopted from the hospital.”

Trine said she hopes Sarah still lives in Indiana, since the adoption was handled in Logansport.

Her husband, Robert, is supportive of her efforts to find her sister, as are other family members.

“If not for them I would have stuck it in the back of my mind and kept it there,” Trine said. “My husband pushes me to do it. I’m glad he does. I think about Sarah on a weekly basis and keep trying to find her.”

Trine said she hopes Sarah knows she has a sister and is looking for her, too.

“It’s possible Sarah doesn’t know she was adopted,” she said. “I think her adoptive family would have told her.”

Trine said she has thought about how different her life might have been if the couple had also adopted her.

“I’m glad the way my life turned out,” she said.

“She’s out there,” Trine said. “I hope she finds me.”

Anyone who might have helpful information should contact the Facebook page, Searching for Sarah.