So whatever drove the scratching was not discovered or resolved, but the boy probably learned to hate or at least mistrust and resent doctors because he knew he wasn’t tired or ready to sleep after dinner and most likely had a miserable time waiting to get sleepy. The way the mother dealt with the situation did nothing to improve their relationship, and when the boy finds out his mother lied to him about “the doctor,” his ability to trust will be damaged, especially his ability to trust and respect HER. Plus he would’ve learned to hate bedtime and that it’s OK to take the easy way out and lie if you are bothered by someone else’s behavior.
I don’t disagree with everything Mr. Rosemond says, but I strongly disagree with much of it. As another example, in a recent column he held up as role models teachers who humiliate their students or hit them with a yardstick to correct posture or the position of one’s hands while typing.
Parenting is the most important and challenging job in the world, yet we do nothing to prepare our citizens for it. Inexplicably, parents are expected to “just know” what to do. While some learning must necessarily be acquired “on the job,” much knowledge and many skills can be gained before having children. Preparation and ongoing learning are needed to raise a child to become a caring, confident, competent, non-addicted, non-violent, moral and responsible adult.
I recommend the organization “Parenting for a Caring World” as a good, research-based source of information and support for parents. Its website, www.ListenToYourBaby.com, offers relevant research findings from neuroscience, psychology, anthropology and other fields. Parenting questions about infants and young children are welcome on its Facebook page.